Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Unsplash I feel like we are all born with innate talents when we are younger, but if we grow up in a culture that doesn't nurture or encourage those gifts, it creates misalignment within us.
Today, I want you to think about what it is about yourself that you can reclaim. I think this is a lifelong process, and I encourage you to look at what you are drawn to or keep coming back to. Think about how you can:
I hope one of these methods of reclamation resonates with you. It can be very restoring after life takes a toll on us to stand up for ourselves. Pausing for reflection on the above will help you break free of ingrained limitations, reclaim what makes you strong, and empower you to move forward.
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Photo by Aleksandra Sapozhnikova on Unsplash This may initially sound counterintuitive with the whole go-go-go, “Lean In” thing, but hear me out.
I know that I am a pretty anxious creature: in general, I think it’s fair to say that many working women know what we want and we want it NOW. What I’m arguing is that operating at 100 mph at all times is not sustainable. You are surely on the track for burnout at that speed. What I propose instead is that you resolve yourself to a practice of patience: know that you are building the foundation for something successful in the future. And like anything worth working towards in life, that takes time: which sometimes means we have to wait longer than we’d like to. But rushing towards your goals isn’t natural, and patience isn’t really talked about as something valuable. Does anyone really WANT to become workaholic? Do you have an impatient coworker or boss, and are they fun to be around? Just like children can’t rush growing up, getting to your end goal will happen exactly when it needs to: and you need to accept that it may not be today. That’s not to say you can’t have steady determination to reach your goals. Those who struggle with patience can be tempted to give up on something because they don’t want to wait. The delays working women deal with on a daily basis are very discouraging and frustrating. They lead to even more anxiety because many times these delays are out of our control. I want to challenge you to face your delays with patience. Build up your skills, put in the work to take yourself to the next level, and pick your battles. If you have the patience, resolve, grit and persistence to hold out for the right time, you’ll have less resistance and make more progress. Patience is an asset, and for working moms like myself, our patience is tested on a daily basis, and my capacity for patience has grown exponentially since I became a mother. So try not to sweat the small stuff, as you have a bigger picture in mind. Stay the course, continue to show up and work towards growth but don’t rush to get there. Photo by Christina @ wocintechchat.com on Unsplash So much is shoved down our throats about having a positive mindset, and how being positive will attract positive things to you. This may be true, but I also want to shed light on the curious mindset, especially when you are feeling stuck.
“Stuck” I think is something women all experience at some point in their careers--or even personally. I know for me, it can feel a lot like cynicism, boredom, or even jaded after seeing and experiencing what feels like the same thing over and over again. If you can take a minute to be curious today, it can shift your thought pattern. It’s a neutral exercise, and can help break the pattern of negative thoughts in your head. If you don’t know where to start, think about work:
These are just some places to start: there’s as many jobs as there are people. What I’m trying to do is get you to think outside your desk or laptop, and start asking questions about what is around you. This could build into a new interest or passion for something you didn’t know you had. Being curious leads us to rapid expansion, to change, to begin new journeys. If that’s not the opposite of stuck, I don’t know what is. One final thought around curiosity: being curious about yourself. It can be easy to settle into the cycle of your life, but why are you doing things this way? Why do you think that way? And is it useful? If it’s not, I encourage you to Marie-Kondo it away and get unstuck. |
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